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September 15, 2009

Great Relational Leaders

What they do and what they don’t do

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Lot’s of great leadership nuggets can be found at 21stCenturyStrategiesInc.com. I was reviewing some archived material there recently and came across a list of relational leadership traits to avoid, put together by Dan Reeves. I’ve adapted Dan’s list a bit and repurposed it as a list of relational characteristics that describe great small-group leaders.

Great relational small-group leaders...


  • Are not stingy with their praise of others.

  • Confidently affirm those things they agree with or believe, while being honest and humble about their own failures.

  • Are willing to initiate healthy mentoring conversations about things that make them concerned.

  • Do not tend to jump immediately to negative conclusions when interpreting people’s actions.

  • Do not find it easy to understand people’s motivations without asking them.

  • Prefer first-hand information rather than second-hand information.

  • Give the benefit of the doubt.

  • Do not tend to want all permissions run through them.

  • Are very comfortable with independent thinkers.

  • Do not tend to be locked into the safety of rules, regulations, and organizational efficiency.

  • Tend to see what can go right with an idea, rather than what might go wrong.

  • Focus more on mission than maintenance.

  • Are more concerned about people than process.

  • Are able to use and release leaders with skills, knowledge and abilities different from or better than their own.

  • Avoid using the legitimacy of their power and control as an excuse to solve problems and make decisions in isolation.

  • Are not insecure.


Do you agree with this list? What relational characteristics have I missed?

posted by Dan Lentz on September 15, 2009 1:01 PM

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