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December 9, 2009

Question of the Week: Christmas Presents

Are people in a small group supposed to buy gifts for each other?


I'm not sure if you've noticed yet, but Christmas is coming soon. So I thought it would be fun to have a Yule-inspired Question of the Week for you: What is the proper etiquette when it comes to giving Christmas gifts within a small group?

Should group leaders give gifts to their group members? Should group members give gifts to their group leaders? Should group members give gifts to each other? If one person brings in a gift for everyone, does that mean that everyone else should go out and get some gifts? Is it appropriate to give a Christmas present to certain people in your small group, but not others?

In all my years of leading small groups, these are questions that I have never figured out. So please help me.

And if you do give Christmas gifts within your small group, let us know some good gift ideas that have worked in the past. (And when I say "good," you should read "inexpensive.")

posted by Sam O'Neal on December 9, 2009 11:02 AM

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We did a $10-$15 "dirty Santa" gift exchange. It worked really well. Turned the gift giving time into a game. Lots of laughing...great relationship-building time.

I'd say if you can find an iPod for $10-$15, you'll be the coolest person at the party.

Another one of your jokes from "The Office," eh Ben? :)

Our group is doing a "Secret Santa" ornament exchange this year. We are planning on making a fun game out it...

- For the name that you picked, you need to buy a Christmas ornament that reminds you of that creative! ($10 max).
- Wrap your gift anonymously & bring it to the party with you. All gifts will be placed in a pile.
- The first person (chosen randomly) will pick out a gift from the pile & open it.
- Their task is to identify/guess who the recipient of that ornament is based on who it reminds them of (input from the crowd is welcomed).
- They will give the ornament to the person they guess & then that person will go up to unwrap the next continues until everyone has unwrapped a gift.

Once the game is over, everyone will confirm if the ornaments were given to the correct recipients...if not, we will shuffle them around so everyone gets what they were supposed to.

If it will serve to build group cohesion and members interaction why not? To avoid competition and 'outshining each other' maybe the gifts should be governed by regulations such as 'how much one can spend'.

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