May 16, 2011
Are you trying (and succeeding) to reach single men through community?
First things first: this post doesn't have anything to do with Charlie Sheen or "winning" or anything like that. So don't worry. I just thought it was a clever title on the subject of single men in the context of small groups.
Having said that, do you have any single men in your small group? Better yet, are you trying to minister to single men through your small group?
I am putting the finishing touches on a new SmallGroups.com resourced called "Effective Small Groups for Men," and I came across some interesting ideas in an article written by Steve Grusendorf:
Assimilating single adult men into the life of a local church can be difficult. When a new family comes through the doors of most churches, the leaders work hard to get them connected; the same is true for single mothers. But there seems to be an initial distrust of many single men who enter our churches.
That's a shame. More than any other demographic, single men are in desperate need of community. In many ways the single adult male is more isolated than his peers. As men get older, more and more of their friends get married and begin having families. An unspoken stigma usually accompanies single men as they get older: the mark of being desperate. Single men find fewer and fewer people to which they can relate, often forcing them to live lonely, isolated lives.
Steve's conclusion is that "with some intentionality, co-ed small groups can be a great place for these men to find the community they long for."
And my first reaction to that is: "Yeah. That makes sense." My second reaction is: "But I don't have any single men in my small group. And I have never tried to attract any single men into my small group." So where does that leave me?
What about you?
posted by Sam O'Neal on May 16, 2011 10:45 AM